What I've learned from being engaged for a year
Hey Everyone, I still can't believe I'm engaged to my best friend! Especially since we have passed the one year mark of being engaged. So last Saturday(7/8) marked my one-year anniversary of being engaged to David.
To be honest it flew by. I can't believe a year ago from today I was getting off from a stressful day at work no idea that I would be engaged by the end of the night! I was really glad it happened that day because later that night we were going to go meet my brother for dinner at this really nice Thai place I love in Broad Ripple (Indianapolis).
Since I have been engaged for 1 year here are things I wished I knew in the beginning.
- It’s okay to have a long engagement
- I initially thought we had to be married within the year. Honestly, I was just watching everyone else. I mean sometimes it takes a year and few months or 5 years. If that is the person you love, time should not be a factor.Just do what is best for you.
- Book a wedding coordinator
- I have not booked one yet. But I do plan on booking one as soon as I get a venue and more details lined up. I’m a DIY type of girl, always have been my whole life. I’m usually the one saying I can make that instead of buying it. But on my big day, I don’t want to have to fool with all the details and execution. I want to be able to hand it all over to my coordinator. Which is why I plan on hiring just a day of coordinator or Month of Coordinator. Which I urge you to do as well, you don’t want to have to deal with any mishaps and you can rest assured with a coordinator.
- It's okay not to have anything planned
- Honestly, we have an ideal date and that’s it. Nothing has been booked. It stresses me out that we haven’t booked the venue yet, but it will come. Hey if you’re currently looking at venues I have a post on what to look for when wedding venue shopping here.
- It is okay to feel confused
- You may have been pining to be engaged for a while and now that it is here, you may be having pre-wedding cold feet. I get it, you are going to spend the rest of your life with this person, and now you may be thinking about can I actually do this. Especially for me, I’ve never lived with my fiancé so I’m nervous about that but also excited. But if we continue to communicate with each other, I have a feeling everything should be ok.
- Fiancé still sounds weird
- I have an earlier post where I explain 5 Things no one tells you about being engaged that you can check out here. It has been a whole year and it still feels weird saying it. Also, does anyone know why it’s the same for both partners? Like before I was his girlfriend and he was my boyfriend. Now we have the same title, but then once we are married it’ll be different again. Does anyone know the history of fiancé?
- Perfection doesn’t exist
- I’m not a perfectionist, but strangely when I started planning I became a perfectionist. I wanted everything to be perfect and within the budget. I got so worried about money and my vision to have the perfect whimsical industrial wedding that I became stressed. So I had to step back and remove myself and take a second to breathe. Now I’m taking things as they come and trying not to stress the deets too much.
If you have any wedding planning questions, I would be happy to answer as best I can. I’m no pro, but I have done a ton of research. Also for those engaged or already married what’s one advice you could tell yourself during the wedding planning process?