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June 2017


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    Just go for it

    Just go for it


    I have been living in my fears a lot lately despite my desperate attempts not to. I have been telling myself no a lot. Or I don’t know if that’s what I want to do. Which it makes sense. I’m 25 years old and I feel like I am at a crossroads with myself. Who I am should I be me or who I am expected to be? The obvious answer is to be me. But who am I? I have been hiding from the world.

    I started this blog because I felt that it was a way for me to express myself. But I haven’t been doing that. I have put myself in a box, too afraid to say or do something because I feel like I’m not supposed to do that. But who cares, I live in the free world and I can do whatever my mind thinks of. I am more than my fears. I need to just go for it. Even if I feel that no one cares what I think, I care and I am open and willing to share it with you.

    A few days ago I went to a local blogger event at a boutique in broad ripple(Indiana) and I met some incredible women. But one of the girls,  Tara made me realize that I should honestly just do me. She also said I need to surround myself with like-minded people who support me. I didn’t realize that I needed that. I’m pretty self-sufficient on my own but sometimes you need a little push from a friend saying that you can do it. Tara has isuch a fun-loving personality, she goes by thesmalltownblonde.

    Reach out

    If you are new to blogging like I am, don’t be afraid to reach out to other bloggers near you or online. Most of the time they are super friendly and willing to help and provide inspiration and give you the little push you need to go for it. I know I needed it and will really start hammering out 1-2 new posts a week spanning a broad range of topics because I have way too many interests and moving pieces in my life to focus on just one, anI i know Im, not the only one.

    Blogging is supposed to be fun, a way for you to express your creativity and to do whatever you want to do. And if someone doesn’t like your content then that isn’t your target audience. Just write, even if you suck at it, eventually you’ll have to become better. And anyway there are so many different writing styles, mine is more conversational and casual.

    If you are feeling that fear is preventing you from expressing yourself, don’t, I’m telling you to just go for it.


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    What to look for when wedding venue shopping


    “Congratulations on your engagement!”

    You may have received many emails of heard this if you have begun the wedding venue search or just engaged. Let’s be realBeing engaged will be the most exciting and stressful time(it’s impossible to not stress and a little stress is good, right?!). Whether your ballin on a budget or rolling in dough there’s a few things you should know about the Venue Hunt.


    *No matter how rich or poor, everyone has to have a budget.

    Now realize the venue will be the most expensive part of your wedding. Because usually, you need to coordinate ceremony &reception, food, drinks(booze), and etc. And if you’re like me you probably just thought of the big picture, oh girl have a seat there are the teeny tiny details too. So in my usual manner, I will bullet out things to be on the lookout when venue shopping. For the sake of simplicity, I am going to assume you want to do your ceremony and reception at the same place.

    Ceremony & Reception:

    These costs usually will be laid out very clearly, which is where they can trick ya. Most venues had the necessary stuff included, but some don’t so you will need to ask. Don’t be afraid to ask.

    • Tables( round dinner seating, cocktail, cake, guestbook, and gifts, DJ table)
    • Chairs( How many? What type? Chair Cover?)
    • Linens(Standard black and white? Colors?)
    • Security
    • Parking( Are there parking attendants)
    • Set up and tear down of event
    • Length of time can we use the venue
    • Quiet Hours
    • Onsite Coordinator
    • Ceremony Rehearsal
    • Discounts to preferred vendors
    • Venue Liability Insurance
    • A/V System( you’ll thank me for this one)
    • Can my dog be in the wedding
    • Candles/ Sparkler send off
    • Dance Floor

    Catering & Drinks/Bar

    Here’s where most of your money may go.

    • Catering Minimum( my personal favorite)
    • Use of outside vendors( Fee?)
    • Average cost per person for Buffet/Plated
    • Bartender( fee?)
    • Open Bar ( cost per person per hour)
    • Non- Alcoholic Drink Package
    • Bar set up fee
    • Bar Gratuity
    • Cake cutting services
    • Can the caterer make a cake


    Could you envision yourself getting married or having a reception in the venue? If you can’t and feel like the place clashes with your vision or style, don’t do it, no matter how cheap, you’ll feel like you settled and that not a good start to planning your wedding. I have looked at a few venues that are very affordable but I can’t bring myself to even spend money on them. I promise you will find something that you will love. Side note: I’m not saying it will be perfect, but it won’t make you want to gag.

    For me, I cannot do carpet. I don’t like carpet and usually, venues with carpet have crazy designs or outdated carpet that just clashes with my theme.


    Remember to enjoy the process. Remember its all in the name love. Don’t let the little details get you, and remember to stay in your budget, I promise you it’s for one day and not worth blowing your budget, everything can be tailored to fit your dream. Remember you can’t always get what you want, but when you try so hard you get what you can. lol! If you are in the Indy area, if you’re struggling with venue shopping, I can send you some great places I have found.

    ***Let me know if you would like to me to make a Wedding venue worksheet. I’ve been thinking of making one for myself to help me decide on the best venue for me and I would love to share it. And I know there are probably thousands already out there, but mine would be super adorable and uber helpful.



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    How to Change your Mindset


    Happy Monday!!

    “Your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will change.”

    My whole life my parents have taught me words are powerful and that having a good mindset is key in life. I never really thought anything of it as a child, it took me until I was an adult to fully understand that what say and think can change your life for the better or for the worst. I know a lot of people who have self-doubt or live in fear may sometimes feel like they can’t get far in life or do anything because of the ideas they have about themselves or what others have said about them.

    I’m here to say that you can do anything you put your mind to, of course within reason. For my college graduation I put on my cap that I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, Phil 4:13. I really believe that and continue to live my life accordingly.

    So If you struggle with lack of confidence and self-love then keep reading.

    Full disclaimer: I am not perfect and still struggle myself with my mindset at times as well.

    Okay, let’s do this. If you have been reading my blog posts you might realize that I enjoy lists a lot.So I’m going to try and do this in list format.



    If you hear yourself saying I hopeI wish, if only a lot then you may struggle with your mindset.

    If you really want something saying things like I hope I get that job really isn’t going to help you get the job. Confidence is key. Saying words like I will get that job and I have all the qualification for this job, the job is mine. Now that sounds much better. In return, you will feel better about yourself and open up space for positive thoughts versus self-doubting and lack of trust in yourself.

    My mom tells me to this day to speak things into existence. Which is so true if you have ambitions and dreams that you want to see come to fruition. Last year during this time I was struggling to pay my bills but I just knew I would be okay, I kept assuring myself that I will pay all my bills and I will not ask for help from anyone. I only asked for help once but it was for such a small amount and I was able to pay all my bills and go on a vacation and drive to my friend’s wedding in Tennessee. Now I’m not trying to paint this perfect picture of myself, I still sometimes struggle with money and am still in heaps of debt, thanks, College! But I continue to prevail and to always check my mindset.

    Future Self

    I like to think of my future self and how I can be that awesome woman whose affluent and does what she wants in her life. Which takes me to this past weekend I watched Wonder Woman and let me tell you it is what the world needed. Throughout the movie, she was told No by her mom and No by men she barely knew. And what did she do, she completely ignored them. Even though people were telling her she couldn’t do this or that, she knew she could or at least really wanted to do it. My fiance called her stubborn, which I find interesting and its what we all should be more of, we need to be stubborn. We need to demand what we know that we can do

    Be Stubborn. Don’t let naysayers tell you that you can’t because you obviously can. Always believe that you can do the impossible because you were born for more, and to great and incredible things. Let your life Shine, and show them who’s boss.

    I feel like I went on a massive tangent but the most important thing I wanted to share with those is to think about what you think about yourself, are you proclaiming negative things in your life, do you constantly doubt yourself and never feel like you’re good enough for whatever reason. Then stop and think and change your mindset. Tell yourself you’re beautiful, tell yourself you can get a job, just believe that your words are magic and change your life, seriously.

    **Some people might think I’m crazy but I know that one day I will do something incredible. Truthfully I already have, I have to remember to give praise to small victories. It’s the little victories we have to celebrate!

    Be inspired.ambitious.unique

    P.S. Check out my favorite mindset queen’s Facebook page. She is truly amazing